There’s nothing new about these questions. Most of us, at one time or another, have heard them and may even dismiss them as shallow and a cliche. However, I challenge you to go deeper. Think about the implications in your life, your career, your health, your family…

• What do I continue doing?
• What do I need to stop doing?
• What do I start doing?

I’ve been facing a cross-road in my life. When reminded of these questions last October, I diligently sat at the keyboard and answered them in great detail. Then I shortened them into something I felt was doable and set to work. I did and did and did. I tried and tried and tried. I got discouraged and quit. Then I tried some more. Does this sound familiar? Spinning wheels with long lists of “shoulds” and “could’s” and doing more. We guilt ourselves for our failures. We guilt ourselves for not trying hard enough. And when that’s not enough… we blame others for our short-comings. If only… if only… Break the cycle. Look at your choices from a distance. And then ask yourself:
What do I continue doing? Analyze what has worked well. What brings you and others the greatest joy and the greatest results. Once you’ve looked closely at what you’re doing, it will become clear what you’d really like to continue. Write down “why” you will continue these things. These things are constants.
What do I need to stop doing? Perhaps the hardest question to answer. Many times there is emotion tied to something we are doing, and we don’t want to face the reality that it isn’t working anymore. Be kind to yourself, but also be realistic. And when it’s time to stop doing something, chose to stop. These things may be your dead horse and it may be time to unload it.
What do I start doing? Well, the list is endless. It’s time to dream, plan, research, and implement your best ideas. Those that promise the greatest personal and professional results. These are your dreams, aspirations, and the new in your life.
And most of all, enjoy the process. Embrace, say goodbye, and then say hello to what’s new in your life.